The finsub's State of Mind
On generosity, chastity, and the pleasure of getting fucked in the mind.
A horny cocksucker loves getting fed. I'm especially oral and there's nothing I love more than a thick cock that fills my mouth. If the top goes deeper into my throat, and passes the special threshold that turns a blowjob into deepthroating, the sensation is even stronger. It's not just about the physical feeling, but that loss of control — my entire airway is clogged and I have surrendered to another man my ability to breathe.
The next step in my submission was getting fucked. I knew I loved sucking years before I knew I was gay. But it was only after I was ready to admit to myself that I was innately into guys, that I let myself consider that I might want to get fucked too. I'm still more oral, and I don't want this passage to discourage anyone who is a side (neither top nor bottom). Anal sex may have expanded my thinking about my role in taking men's dicks and letting them fill my holes, serving as a vessel for them. However, there was one more step to take in my submission. A third hole to fill.
As a finsub, I can have it all. I can have dicks in my mouth, my ass, and my mind. It took me so long to discover the pleasure that comes from mindfucking. I needed to go deeper in my journey into submission — from a cocksucker to a bottom, a urinal, a slave, a fag doing chores even without sex, and finally a finsub. It also required me to develop generosity.
I didn't realize it, but I began developing generosity as a sub a few years ago, when I started playing with chastity, well before I discovered findom. Even before I started putting the cage on for every hookup, I gradually stopped chasing orgasms every time I was with another guy. I increasingly focused on the man's pleasure and getting him to his orgasm. At first I'd jerk off on my own soon after having sex, but eventually I didn't need that either. I took pleasure just from driving men toward their orgasms. Now isn't that generous?
In the findom scene, generous (or "gen", for short) is code for willing to send money to a FinDom. It's perfectly natural to flinch at the question "are you generous?" as you might take it as a premature request for a tribute, before you had even had the opportunity to freely consider the option to give. And pardon me for addressing you in second person, as I know that not all of my followers are finsubs. It's just easier this way, and who knows, maybe it will let more of you connect with your inner finsub. In the interest of full disclosure, I recently found pleasure as a FinDom too, or rather — a FinSwitch, and am happy to drain any one of you.
Once you've opened up to sending tributes, you might get excited when a hot, confident FinDom approaches you, even if he proposes that you send before you've had the opportunity to decide to send.
Sending is a lot of fun. I get excited when a FinDom I'm into offers to insert his cashcock into my mind. That can be just as thrilling as a hot guy approaching me at the bar and telling me to get on my knees. Just as I'd want to bring that top to his orgasm, it gives me pleasure to know my FinDom is satisfied by using my cashhole.
I wrote a whole post with tips on how a sub can help himself go deeper, to maximize his own pleasure.
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We all seek attention and approval. We’d take any compliment, even if it’s about our ass, or any other hole for that matter. You might enjoy praise for your cashhole just as much as for your butthole or your cocksucking skills. It can feel so rewarding to have a FinDom so interested in you, no matter how much it costs you.
After I sent $60 to a FinDom the other day, I texted him, admitting I was considering sending again, and feeling weird about how he and I both wanted me to send him more. That was my coy way of revealing that I still felt the gape of my cashhole and that I was tempted to keep sending. I started imagining myself as a leaky faucet, while he had the power to just reach with his hand and open me wide.
He saw right through me even without getting that explanation. "I love that we have that same interest," he replied. And I loved that too. I loved how I wanted to get fucked and he wanted to fuck me. Sure, he wanted to fuck my cashhole, but as a finsub I can think of my cashhole as a part of me, whether it represents my open mind or my gaping purse.
Being in that state of mind is so rewarding that — between you and me — I want to do everything to stay in that sweet mindfuck. In the morning after sending, I wrote him that I was almost tempted to hold off on cumming, maybe even putting my chastity cage back on every day, to stay desperate for him for a month. I wrote "almost" but a good FinDom should see through this. It's hedging, and it wasn't even meant for him, but for myself. It's just a little guardrail I added to reassure myself that I could keep sliding deeper, as long as I had something to hold on to. All he has to do is reassure me that I can keep going, keep sending.
I want to drain you too.
Let yourself feel the need to $end!
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A FinDom can be very effective at driving you deeper into a mindfuck. Money happens to be the vehicle to first access that pleasure, but once you've found it, you can stay in that sweet blissful mindfuck, edging yourself on with so much less than you'd normally need to get excited.
For example, earlier today at the gym, I let myself imagine possibilities with a few of the hot guys training. All I had to do was look at someone's huge biceps, exposed armpit, or dangling bulge, and I could imagine them using me, as my FinDom did. I didn't need to touch them. I had been opened up to getting fucked deep in my mind. Still primed, I was out of breath just from thinking about any of those guys.
Financial domination is about giving yourself permission to surrender, and eventually, send. As long as you're not harming anyone, using money that is meant for someone else, or sending beyond your means, there's so much pleasure to be found in sending.